I was having lunch with a friend the other day at our local fast food restaurant. While our two little tykes ran up and down the play area, we spent the majority of our conversation on the topic of our husband's love languages. We quickly discovered that both men had the same primary and secondary language. I think we spent the remainder of our visit laughing at all the similarities in the things that minister to our husbands and speak love to them.
It is important that I pray for my husband daily, but it is also important that I build him up (or speak his language). Proverbs 31:11-12 says, "The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life."
I know that I am doing him good when I pray for him, but am I doing him harm in other ways?
This is the question that I often ask myself. As a result I came up with a short list of things "to do him good."
1. Send or email him a note, just because. Before the days of email, I would occasionally mail him a fun card to his office. He loved displaying them.
2. Listen to him without interrupting
3. Call him at his place of work just to say, “I love you!”
4. Let him know that you are proud of him. We are good at complimenting our husbands to others, but fail to tell them directly.
5. Tell him you are going to rub his back, or whatever…and then do it as planned
6. Buy his favorite snack, or drink and have it ready for him when he comes home. My husband loves a cold coffee drink. I don't buy them all the time, but occasionally I'll surprise him.
7. Do the one chore you always ask him to do for you without saying anything, maybe several times. Just because! For example: take the trash out, get the
car washed, or return the movies.
8. Provide a peaceful place of rest for him by encouraging him to relax and watch his favorite movie or provide a quiet place for him to finish a book.
9. Keep his trust. In other words, never say anything about him to others that would make him uncomfortable or embarrassed.
10. Build him up with your words. When he comes home, greet him! Thank him for all that he does for your family.